How to Stay Focused

wwI just starting Weight Watchers again. And I need some good tips to stay focused this time. The first time was I did good but after losing 16lbs I fell off. and gained that plus more. I want to stay on this and so my daughter better habits.

My situation. I’m a 23yo single mum to a 2yo little girl. I live with my father and I can’t seem to find a job to save my life. So to make things work, I sell things on eBay and I don’t do that bad. I have enough to pay for the necessities of a 2yo. I do house work and sit on my butt a lot. I’m at a very unhealthy weight and I want to slim down.

Any tips would help.


  • Write down every single thing you eat- good, bad and ugly.
  • Drink your water.
  • Get rid of the regular pop in your life. Just stopping drinking that can cause you to lose 15 pounds in one year.
  • Don’t make this a diet. Make it a lifestyle change.

This is a great start, reaching out for help.

creating a network of support is good. I learned not tell my family that I am eating differently or exercising because they tend to sabotage so now I just rely on friends n(certain friends, not all) and groups. Try to join the meetings’s good for pointers and encouragement. I would to say take your daughter out to play, talk longer walks . count everything you eat.

Try to write it down, after a while it will become like second nature. plan your meals, do not limit yourself to just ‘diet’ food. eat what you like, small portions, drink lots of water. when you feel weak.. write a post, call someone, think about being thin and healthy. keep good healthy snacks around the house. and if there are things that are “bad’ for you then either keep them out of the house or get them in one size servings. Don’t be hard on yourself be firm with yourself. Good Luck, these are all the things I’m learning to do and trying to do.

My tips are

  • It didn’t come on overnight, it isn’t going to come off overnight so keep your persistence.
  • Measure yourself…when you get discouraged about what the scale says….check your measurements ~ you could be losing inches.
  • If you ‘lie’ you are only cheating yourself ~ in other words, write it down and count everything that goes in your mouth! If you work the program, the program will work for you!

I Need Support

I posted about a month ago how I was having trouble because I went off track due to a family issues. I ended up gaining my 8lbs back but then got back on track and lost 5lbs. Then more serious family issues arose and I totally fell of the wagon and gained an extra 2lbs so now I am at my highest which is 217lbs.

I want to get back on track but I’m having trouble. With all the stress and everything going on, I am not finding time to track my points and exercise. I am going on vacation this Saturday the 18th till the 24th to get away with my boyfriend and son to relax and have an awesome first family vacation .I told myself that when I get back I’m hopping back onto the wagon and taking charge.

I have been very depressed lately because I don’t feel comfortable with my body at all! I own my own business cleaning houses so I wear t-shirts and sweat pants all day for work and end up wearing them out too because its the only thing that fits. Please help me get back on track when I get back from vacation. My goal is 75lbs but I want to try and loose 21lbs by New Years which is my 10% goal.


First let me say I am sorry about all the stress you have been going through, that has to be hard on you.

Sounds like you have a pretty active job, cleaning houses so maybe you can just concentrate on eating better and not working out right now. My Weight Watchers leader said that if you have time to eat you have time to count points so no excuses! If you just don’t feel like counting points maybe you should try the Core plan.

Do you go to meetings? That has really kept me motivated. Good luck!

I’m sorry you are under a great deal of stress and I’m not trying to be insensitive but honestly, there never really is a perfect time to start making healthy choices. We can always find reasons (excuses if you want to call them that) why you can justify eating poorly. HOWEVER, it’s never too soon to truly get committed to making healthy choices for yourself. You have to make it a priority in your life or you’ll never get to where you want to be with your health.

I’m not trying to beat you up at all. I totally understand how hectic life can be. However, I just wanted to point out that there are always going to be things that happen that could easily throw you off track. BUT, you have to decide to make the choice to not let those things beat you. I’m not saying it’s easy. I’m just saying that you can do it!

Remember, you’ve got to take care of yourself. No one else will do it for you!

For me, I have to say that I somehow found it in me to pull myself out of my own depression, but it took me a year. I never went to therapy, instead finding that exercise-Jazzercise, in particular-was equally as beneficial to my overall well-being. You might need to talk to a therapist or join a support group-do you go to Weight Watchers meetings? I also found them to be very therapeutic.

You know what needs to be done, and honestly, only YOU can do it. The best that the rest of us can do is try and give you support in your decisions, advice on what we would do ourselves, and inspiration. BUT, it is still up to YOU to take all of that into your mind, heart, body and soul and do something about it.

I wish I could tell you that losing 76 pounds was easy-but it was not. It was hard. The weight came off just fine, but sticking to it is HARD. Staying motivated is HARD. Having added stress, as you and I have had, makes it harder. You need to know that it is okay to put Weight Watchers on hold while you deal with your grief and your stress.

Here is what I would do in your position:

  • Decide if seeing a therapist or joining a support group might help you feel better.
  • Wear fitted clothing to work-buy new exercise attire to wear, and throw out the sweats! NO ONE feels GOOD in sweats!
  • Go to a Weight Watchers meeting and share your troubles. If you are online only, you can still try a meeting for free.
  • Call a friend or Weight Watchers buddy and see if they can get you out for exercise, or come over to the house and exercise with you.

You will get through all this, but it takes ONE STEP at a time, ONE DAY at a time.

It is hard when you’re already not happy with your body, and for me, that means I’m already depressed..then to have other things happen like death in the family or friends, and so close together. I am also sorry to hear about your son.

I agree with some other posters, if you don’t have time to track points, check out the core program. I did the core program the first two weeks and I lost 6 pounds. it is actually easier than I thought it would be, and I only switched to flex because we have some potlucks coming up, and I wanted to have a daily points allowance as well as weekly points allowance. You can still have pasta, just has to be whole wheat, brown rice, and you can even have potatoes. however, you can only have one serving of one of those items once a day. it is a lot of meat and veggies/fruit….but it’s worth it. and maybe to help you get back on track the core might be the best option..then once things settle down and you can get online, switch to flex if you like.

What I have done, is lot my foods the night before for the next day, this way everything is planned out and I already know what’s going on. like this week since we have a potluck on Friday, I planned out the rest of my week through Friday, and I already know what people are bringing, so I was able to plan out what I am already going to have.

I have a little more to loose than you do, so feel free to pm me after you get back from vacation and want a buddy.

I also agree with a previous poster.

Maybe get yourself on track with weight watchers first, and then incorporate exercise at a later day when you’re really on track and sticking with it. That’s what I’ve been doing .. I had my daughter in April, I didn’t start weight watchers until July, and that was because I was getting married in Oct and I wanted to lose the baby weight (I did btw!). I am just now incorporating exercise back into my life. 3 and a 1/2 months later but I’m finally doing it! One step at a time, one day at a time. Good luck!